E. Harriet (Oxenham) Carey

  • Died: January 26, 2021
  • Location: Manchester, New Hampshire

Lambert Funeral Home & Crematory

1799 Elm St
Manchester, NH 03104

Tel. (603) 625-6951

Tribute & Message From The Family


E. Harriet (Oxenham) Carey of Manchester, NH and, earlier, of Hingham, MA, died peacefully on January 26, 2021 with her family close by. She was 94 years old.

Harriet (Hattie) was born in New York City in 1926, the daughter of Alfred Julian Oxenham and Pauline (Kerl) Oxenham. She was baptized by Norman Vincent Peale in New York City at the Marble Collegiate Church, and she grew up with her brother, Alfred J. Oxenham (who predeceased her), in Amagansett, New York. Hattie entered Wellesley College at age 16, and received her BA in Sociology in 1947. She met and married Harry Vincent Carey after a blind date, when he returned from WWII. Harry was a Second Lieutenant in the Army Air Corps, where he was copilot of a B-24 "Liberator" bomber.

Hattie lived many decades in Hingham, and her life was filled with family, tennis, books, dogs, a well-loved pony and travel. She took joy in her tennis and played in a competitive league while a winter resident at Harbour Ridge, Stuart, FL. Harry predeceased her in 1974, and she took over management of Barney and Carey Lumber Company for several years.

She leaves behind her children, Joanne Pender (Paul), Martha Donelan (John), Margaret Pfau (predeceased by William), Susan Hatfield (William), Peter Carey (Elizabeth); her fourteen grandchildren: David Eldredge (Catherine), Catherine Mitchell-Hardt (Matt), Harriet Eldredge-Hindy (Nick), Emily Pender, Elizabeth Chambers (Jennifer), Sarah Guilbride (Tom), Wendy Pfau (Jack), Bill Pfau, Peter Hatfield (Celia), Bill Hatfield, Sally Hatfield, Peter Carey, David Carey, Eleanor Carey; and also nine great-grandchildren.

A memorial service for family only will be held in Milton, MA. Lambert Funeral Home & Crematory, Manchester, NH, is assisting the family with arrangements. Remembrances may be sent to: Granite YMCA c/o YMCA Allard Center, Goffstown, NH, 116 Goffstown Back Rd, Goffstown, NH 03045.


Condolence & Memory Journal

I'm writing on behalf of my grandmother, Faith Cofer, who grew up with Hattie in Amagansett. She said she has lots of fond memories and is so sad to hear of her passing before she could reach out to her. Thinking of her family.

Posted by Faith Cofer - Mount Pleasant, SC - Friend   March 30, 2021

Dear JoAnn Pender and family,
We were sorry to learn of your Mom's passing. We hope her last days brought her peace..

Posted by Glenn and Kathy Turgeon - 202 Straw Hill   February 09, 2021

Dear Joanne, Martha, Margaret, Suzie and Peter,
Your mother's death is a sad and solemn milestone for me and my brothers, as it marks the end of an entire generation of aunts and uncles whose love knitted our families together for so many years. When Hattie came to my mom's memorial gathering in 2006, it was the first time I had seen her in many years, and I immediately sensed her wisdom, empathy and character. I know nothing about her latter years, but pray that her extraordinary love for the five of you sustains you in this difficult time. Blessings to you!

Posted by Chuck Will - Andover, NH   February 05, 2021

To our cousins, the Carey ladies and Peter, and your families:

Both Anne (McGovern) Leahy and I, Jay, were saddened to hear of the passing of your mom. But what a good, long and accomplished life she had!
We both have fond memories of her, your dad and all of you in the early years. Holiday gatherings in Hingham--or more frequently at 63 Governors Road in Milton, with our "grampa" and Nellie, or in Wellesley. Because of distance and our busy lives over all of these years, we have not stayed in touch as much as we would have preferred, but we love
all of you, and feel connected to all off you, as family. You are in our prayers.
Jay and Anne

Posted by Jay jaymcg@comcast.net - Newburyport, MA - Family   February 05, 2021


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